Try everything and don’t be afraid to fail. That’s sort of been the mission statement of my life. No matter what amount of suck and inconvenience has been thrown my way, and no matter how many times I’ve had to alter the plan. When you’re building something that you want to succeed whether it’s a business, a band, or a book club, you have to keep evaluating, improving and most importantly moving with failure (and it’s avoidance) foremost in your mind.

Some people will tell you that failure is a state of mind, and you can’t even consider it. I think that’s crap. Imagine you’re running towards a cliff, but you’re in a state of great joy and optimism, wouldn’t you rather maintain your joy and optimism and avoid going over the cliff’s edge to your death? Hell, maybe some wouldn’t, but I would and you probably would, too. So I think that you have to be mindful of failure, and through evaluation and improvement you move away from failure. But to say failure is just a state of mind, and dismiss it, much like a lot of folks only want to hear the bright side of things, is just foolish… and yes ignorance is bliss, but when you’re out there trying to make a go of something you don’t have the luxury of ignorance because you’ve made a decision that you’re going for it, because the status quo just isn’t working for you. To that I say right on!

Success is based on appearance, not reality; I read this in Robert X. Cringley’s Accidental Empires and it was like a cosmic lightning strike to my being. I’ve always struggled with this, because success, so often, does in fact seem to be based on appearance rather than reality. The problem with appearances is that they yield nothing but a vision, a concept, an idea. But what do you do when the veneer of the appearance starts to crack? More work is required to keep up the appearance than to have done the thing that the appearance was created for or explained why it couldn’t be done and/or made other plans to begin with.

Appearance-based “success” that’s based on a tangible, is really what I’m talking about here, and to call this a success without any real tangible being delivered isn’t success at all. Successful relay of a vision, concept or idea, when the outcome is a tangible isn’t a success but rather a snow job dressed up as success. This is logic, though, however, and the human condition, through its very essence nullifies logic. So there it is. I’ve reconciled it, success is how things look not how thing are.

I’ll keep trying for success based on what is rather than the appearance, though…